Are you in love or in a mess? 9 ways to know you’re in a healthy relationship

by Clement Ogunbajo · July 27, 2021

How to know if you’re in a healthy relationship? See the signs and characteristics to look out for.

How to know you're in a healthy relationship

Firstly, no relationship is perfect. Every relationship has its shortcomings. However, wouldn’t we all love to be in a very healthy relationship where we feel love and wanted?

I will be sharing with you the signs to look out for to know if you are in a healthy relationship.

A healthy relationship helps build your self-esteem and self-confidence. In a healthy relationship, you should feel safe, loved, respected and accepted for who you are.

In a relationship, the moment you start feeling u don’t matter or you are feeling less love then you know it is a toxic relationship.

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Signs to know you’re in a healthy relationship

Equality

Relationships should be safe and fair. This means in a relationship, power should be shared instead of one person bossing the other around.

Equality is also sharing effort. If you start feeling your input is more than that of your partner’s, it is an unequal relationship.

Good communication

Communication is key in every healthy relationship. Being able to talk and listen to each other about your feelings and thoughts.

Bad communication is the foundation for a toxic relationship.

Be yourself

Whenever you are around who you are dating, you should always feel comfy. The moment you stop being true to yourself then there is a problem.

Trying to change yourself for your partner doesn’t always work out in the long run. So, I wouldn’t advise it.

Trust

What is a relationship without trust? Partners should be able to trust each other with everything. Trust in a relationship means supporting one another, looking out for each other and counting on each other.

A relationship built on trust is bound to last.

Respect

Saying no to things that makes you uncomfortable shouldn’t cause issues. In a relationship, you should respect each other opinions and wishes even when it doesn’t favour you.

Making decisions together

Why is it only you calling the shots or why is it only your partner? Decisions should be made together while also listening to each other’s concerns. No one should feel like he/she don’t matter.

Feel safe

At no point should you feel threatened both emotionally and physically in a relationship? Being in a healthy relationship means knowing your partner won’t try to hurt your feelings or your body.

Your relationship should be a safe place for you.

Deal with argument

Arguments and fights are part of a relationship. In fact, if there is neither then one person is probably holding back emotions and that is not healthy.

How you deal with fights or arguments will define what type of relationship you are in. In a healthy relationship, you should be able to;