How to start a conversation with a stranger

Are you having difficulty starting a conversation with strangers? Do you feel nervous and unsure about starting a conversation with a stranger? Learn how to start a conversation with a stranger with ease.

Why do I feel pressure when I want to approach a stranger?

It is okay to feel pressure when you want to approach someone for the first time. However, starting a conversation with a stranger shouldn’t give you a headache.

Start by choosing a solid conversation opener and building your conversation from there. When feasible, converse in a variety of contexts to meet as many individuals as possible.

Practice your abilities, and you’ll know the perfect way to start a conversation with a stranger in no time.

9 steps on how to start a conversation with a stranger

Step 1: Make eye contact.

Eye contact conveys curiosity and a sense of connection. You’re off to a good start if the person meets your gaze. Make your way towards them with a welcoming smile.

If they look away or appear uninterested, make eye contact with someone else.

Attract the person’s attention, but don’t stare too long or look away too quickly. Maintain eye contact for not more than 5 seconds.

Step 2: Walk over and give a simple, sweet compliment.

There is obviously something about that individual that got you attracted to them in the first place so walk up to them with a smile and tell them what it is, we all appreciate receiving compliments.

This is a fantastic approach to start up a conversation because it will not only make them feel good but will also make them feel relaxed and open to a little conversation.

“I like your purse,” or “you look great in that dress” this will almost immediately set the person at ease and possibly open to telling you where she/he got it.

Comment on the person’s eyes, smile, or hair if you want to be flirting. “You have a wonderfully gorgeous grin,” or “I love the colour of your hair,” for example. But please avoid being too personal as it will only scare the person away.

Stage 3: Making small talk is a good way to start a conversation.

If you start a conversation with a deeply personal question or inquiry, it could be unsettling. Begin by something totally random.

Make a weather-related remark, inquire about their weekend (or weekend plans), and be genuinely interested in their response.

You can start a conversation by commenting on something as simple as that.

Don’t make him/her feel pressured by your presence.

Stage 4: If you want them to feel at ease, tell them a little about yourself.

Don’t talk on and on about your ex or your tedious workday. Instead, start the conversation by revealing a little about yourself.

Talking about oneself demonstrates your openness and encourages the other person to do the same.

“I’m getting a dog today, and I’m excited,” for example. ‘Do you have any animals?’

Stage 5: Take a look at the person’s body language.

Approach someone who isn’t busy or distracted by something (or someone). When you begin talking, pay attention to if the individual is bored of the conversation and really enjoying your company.

Keep an eye on their body language as you speak.

Maintain eye contact throughout the entire conversation and make sure your new acquaintance isn’t just tolerating your presence but is really enjoying the new conversation.

Stage 6: Look for anything you have in common.

Finding a shared interest is one of the quickest ways to start a conversation with a stranger. You might ask about their hobbies if you spot a pair of boxing gloves or a gym bag, or you might notice something right away (such as they’re wearing a cap from the institution you went to). Then, build on what you’ve already said.

For instance, you could say, “I like your car! It’s the same one I have. What model it?”

“Do you own a pet?” is another option. “I have puppies at home, and they are a bundle of energy! This is a great way to start a conversation with a stranger as they will open up easily.

Stage 7: Learn to listen

One of the most important skills as a good communicator is “the listening skill”.

I mentioned earlier not to pressure the new acquaintance to speak quickly to share personal things, but when they finally decide to open up and share some things, listen.

Don’t cut them off too soon, just let them speak. You can throw in short comments along the line but don’t cut them off. Instead, give your totally attention.

Stage 8: Avoid making physical contact

As much as you are keep eye on them and their body language, they are also watching you. Unless the situation requires it, avoid touching someone you’ve just met.

For example, if you’ve just met someone, a pleasant handshake is appropriate. Going in for a hug, on the other hand, is usually not a good idea. People may feel uneasy if you approach them too closely.

Before touching someone, even if you’re trying to help them physically, get their permission first. Do you need help getting up? You might ask if you see someone trip and fall. Do you mind if I take your hand?

Step 9: After a failed attempt, Go away.

Some strangers will be delighted to speak with you, while others may prefer their privacy. It’s probably time to move on if someone acts disinterested, turns away from you, or offers one-word answers.

You might step away from the person after thanking them for their time.