Do guys like it when girls make the first move?
The question “do guys like it when girls make the first move?” I have asked myself and it has cropped up on social media quite a few times recently. It seems that most men enjoy this and women are often confused about whether to or not. The answer is yes, for the most part, guys do like it when girls make the first move.
- 1 Benefits of making the first move
- 2 5 important questions to ask before making the first move
- 3 What do I do if he doesn’t like me back?
Benefits of making the first move
The most important thing you gain out of telling a guy you like him is clarity. You will save yourself time by eliminating confusion. Also, you will eliminate any question about whether or not he likes or is interested in you
You could also get the chance to clear what you want and what you don’t want out of a relationship. And you will be able to gauge interest from the other party much more clearly when they show signs of interest in moving forward with a relationship.
5 important questions to ask before making the first move
When considering making the first move on a guy, there are 5questions to ask yourself.
Do you really want this person?
Before you approach anyone, think about how much you like the person — whether it’s his looks, smile, personality or other traits that attract you to him.
You don’t have to go all out if your interest isn’t strong enough or if there isn’t any chemistry between the two of you. You may just be wasting your time if you do.
Is he single and ready to mingle?
Before you make a move, you might want to first find out if he’s single. To avoid wasting your time and his time, it would be good for you to know if he’s already in a relationship or not.
You don’t have to come out and ask him straight up, but find ways and means to get the information gradually. Asking him about his family or friends will help you in knowing more about his life.
Does he like you back?
Look for signs that he likes you back. Make sure he’s not dating someone else or has said he’s not interested in dating at all. Then, see if he returns your eye contact and smiles at you. If he seems to reciprocate your feelings, this could be the perfect opportunity to tell him how you feel.
Are you in the right place?
If you want to tell a guy you like him, you’ll have to find the right time and place to do it. You should also be upfront with him so he won’t feel like you are leading him on. If the timing doesn’t feel right, try again when you feel more comfortable. When the time is right, be honest and tell him how you really feel!
What will happen afterward?
Ask yourself what is likely to happen when you talk to him and get his attention — he could reciprocate your feelings or he could not be interested in you at all.
In the case of rejection, ask yourself if it’s something that will affect your self-esteem since rejection can sometimes be embarrassing for some people especially when others are watching.
What do I do if he doesn’t like me back?
When you finally get to talk to a guy you’re interested in, one of two things can happen. He could make a move on you or he can leave you hanging. When he makes a move, whether it’s asking you out on a date or kissing you, I’m sure that’s music to your ears but what if he doesn’t?
This is a tough situation, and it’s understandable that you’ll be embarrassed. While there are plenty of people who keep their crushes a secret and most of them are successful in doing so, some people just can’t help but blurt it out. If you’ve told him that you like him and he doesn’t feel the same way, then don’t take it personally; it just wasn’t meant to be. You’ll get through this, and you’ll be fine, I promise.
When he said that he doesn’t feel the same way about you, he wasn’t rejecting you; he was just saying that he didn’t reciprocate your feelings, which is fine.
We live in a society where most girls see making a move on a guy as weird. But I tell you this, there is nothing weird about going for what you want as guys often appreciate when girls make the first move on them.