Things to do when your partner’s parents don’t like you

Relationships are difficult enough as it is, but adding family to the equation makes things even more difficult. When you’re in a committed relationship, however, it’s important to understand that if things work out, your families will become involved at some point. So what do you do when your partner’s parents don’t like you?

You may adore your partner and have a happy and secure relationship, but that does not guarantee that everything in your family will be happy. Your relationship with your partner’s parents might be problematic at times, wreaking havoc on your love life.

When you have a rocky connection with your partner’s parents, who are also your to-be in-laws, it can cast a pall over your relationship, and it’s critical to know how to handle it so that it doesn’t harm your relationship with your partner.

This frequently leads people to believe that their relationship is doomed, however, this is not always the case. It would have been simple if one could simply end the relationship whenever this occurred.

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But, of course, nothing is ever that simple. It’s either too difficult to let go because you’re too attached to your spouse, or they won’t let you go since their family doesn’t matter. So, if you can’t get out of the relationship, what are your options?

If you ever find yourself in this scenario, here are some useful hints:

1. Be respectful

Continue to be respectful. Even if it’s clear that their animosity is baseless, you can’t treat them with disrespect. Maintain dignity, class, and respect at all times. If your partner ever disrespects you, it is their responsibility to speak up for you.

2. Be more caring

Show them that you care by doing small things. Instead of approaching them as if you were a guest entering a hotel, offer to assist them with cooking, arranging the table, or clearing and washing the dishes.

3. Be Understanding

You both adore your lover so try to understand they may just be scared of losing them to you. Spending some time looking over their childhood photos and asking them to tell you some hilarious stories might make them comfortable and make them realize you aren’t stealing their son/daughter away.

4. Do not force your partner to choose sides.

Whether it was done on purpose or not. Don’t force your partner to choose between you and their parents. They may subsequently resent you for it. Allow your partner to make that decision without any pressure from you.

5. Don’t be too sensitive

They may not like you, but they are only looking out for their child’s best interests. Try not to take everything they say or do personally because they’re doing it out of worry and love for their child.

6. Be patient with yourself.

Recognize that they are unfamiliar with you and may take some time to get to know you and warm up to you. Try not to rush things and instead learn to wait for good things to happen.

7. Speak up when needed

You should respect your partner’s parents, but that does not mean you should let them off the hook. When it’s necessary to speak up, do so gently and without forcing your partner to select sides.

8. Recognize that you have no control over the situation.

You might be doing everything you can on your end, but that doesn’t imply your significant other’s parents will accept you. Learn to let go of things and understand that you will have to accept that they will not be okay with you.

Take away

I need you to understand that your partner’s parents not liking you is not a totally uncommon thing. But a lot of people who have been in this situation have survived it and some have even overcome it, with the parents ending up liking them.

You should have no problems if you have no secrets from your partner and he or she is fine with you in your entirety, regardless of what his parents or family say.