Relationship hack: How to pick your life partner

The kind of life partner you need is someone who is always there for you, cheers you up when all you want to do is cry and understands you. The fundamental thread that binds us all is love. However, love alone might not be enough because picking the appropriate life partner can be challenging. How then do you pick the right life partner for yourself? Keep reading to find out more.

It will take time and effort to find them, but once you do, it will be a beautiful moment filled with indescribable emotions. Now all you have to do is find them. As a result, here are some things to think about when you are about to pick your life partner”

How to pick the right life partner

• A good friend

Would you want to be friends with this person if you weren’t dating them? Do you admire and respect how this individual conducts themselves in their other relationships? Can you appreciate the friendship you have with this individual when the flames of passion in your relationship have died down? When you’re unwell when you’re recovering from surgery or disease when you’re stranded on a ridiculously long road trip together?

Sex and romance are a piece of the relationship pie. Perhaps even more important is friendship. Choose a partner who will be an incredible friend.

Read here: Convincing signs your relationship will last a lifetime

• Growth and learning-oriented

It takes effort and a commitment to develop and learn to keep two humans together with all of their peculiarities, preferences, and baggage year after year as they grow, mature, and possibly change as individuals.

Choose a partner who values growth and learning and is willing to put in the effort to grow individually and collectively with you during your partnership.

• Willingness to face the tough stuff of life

You will both inevitably age and become ill, lose loved ones, adapt your lifestyle, experience changes in your body and mind’s faculties, and witness each other miserable, grumpy, and maybe throwing up and heartsick at some point throughout your life together.

Because life is chock-full of the not-so-shiny things, a spouse who only sees the joyful, shiny stuff of life and wants to leave the relationship when the going gets rough may not be long-term life partner material.

Find someone with whom you can be yourself and who you can trust to be there for you when life throws you a curveball.

• A jovial attitude

Choose a companion who can make you laugh – at yourself, at them, at the absurdity of life, and who can make you laugh even on your gloomiest days. Humour brightens your day, and having a spouse who can make you laugh is a wonderful characteristic to have in a lifelong companion.

• Invisible qualities

Choose someone based on the emotions they elicit in you. Because of the depth of their character and spirit. Not for their good appearance, their professional achievements, or their salary.

With time, everything will fade, alter, and diminish. So pay attention to what’s more important: their character’s quality and content, their soul’s luminosity, how you feel when you’re with them, how they treat you, and what you’d notice and know about them if you couldn’t see them. Choose a person based on their immaterial qualities.

• Be quick to forgive

Relationships, take a lot of effort, and you’ll both undoubtedly get into arguments, hurt each other, make errors, and otherwise act like jerks to each other at times.

As a result, look for a life partner who is willing to forgive. Who will accept your apologies if you make a mistake? A person that can look past your disagreements? Who will not always blame you for being your friendliest self?

Because it’s impossible to avoid making mistakes in a relationship. What matters is the repair, the courage to forgive and put things back together again.

• A motivator

Finally, find a spouse whose kindness and methods motivate you to be a better person. Choose someone who can bring out and strengthen elements of you that you didn’t even realize existed.
Choose someone who makes your world and life feel more expansive, richer, and meaningful. Quite the contrary.