Relationship hack: The questions that could lead to love

Have you ever wondered if there were questions that could lead to love? Even if there are such questions, does it work? I thought of these questions myself and did research on it. Want to know what I found out? Then you must keep reading because I have some interesting information to share in this article.

Before going further, Yes, there are questions that could lead to love. As a matter of fact, there are 36 of them. Psychologist Dr. Arthur Aron in 1997 came up with the 36 questions in a study he did at Stony Brook University, New York.

How can questions make one fall in love?

Getting to know each other is key to building a long-lasting relationship and there is no better way to do this than asking the right questions.

By asking the right and personal questions, you are leaving room for yourself to be vulnerable with another person which fosters closeness.

Do the questions that could lead to love work?

Upon seeing the questions, I said to myself this is not going to work. It cannot possibly be that simple. However, I tried it with my female friend and to my surprise, there was an enhanced closeness we felt.

I guess that is enough to say it works. According to Dr. Arthur Aron, the couple he tried the 36 questions on got married a few months after the experiment.

36 questions that could lead to love

The questions are in 3 sets. With each set, the intensity of self-disclosure increases. So if you are going on a date to meet someone you feel you want to try a serious relationship with, here are the 36 questions to ask that can be the start of your love story.

Set 1

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What could constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner (the person you are dating) appear to have in common?
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take 4 minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set 2

1. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else what would you want to know?
2. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
3. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
4. In a friendship, what do you value most?
5. What is your most treasured memory?
6. What is your most terrible memory?
7. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
8. What does friendship mean to you?
9. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
10. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner (the person you are dating). Share a total of 5 items.
11. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner (the person you are dating). Share a total of 5 items.
12. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner (the person you are dating). Share a total of 5 items.

Set 3

1. Make 3 true ‘we’ statements each. For instance “We are both in this room feeling…”
2. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”
3. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
4. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
5. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
6. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
7. Tell your partner something that you love about them already?
8. What if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
9. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? What haven’t you told them yet?
10. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
11. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
12. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, as your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Do you need more questions to help you love better, here are another sets of questions to help you find love.